Hiding anything from one's husband or wife seems stupid, especially big purchases like this. People shouldn't have to hide their biggest passions or hobbies from the one who is supposed to be the closest to them.I watch people try to hide their purchases from their spouses, and a lot of times it does not work. The first rule should be if you can't afford the new lens/camera/tripod, don't buy it.
Of course if you can't keep up with the credit cards or loans, etc. then eventually the whole house of cards will come tumbling down. While I imagine it is pretty bad if it comes down if you live alone, it would be worse if you bring down a spouse, and even worse if there are children involved. Similar stories are told all of the time about drugs, alcohol, expensive shopping trips, etc.Hiding anything from one's husband or wife seems stupid, especially big purchases like this. People shouldn't have to hide their biggest passions or hobbies from the one who is supposed to be the closest to them.
Refraining from buying things that one can't afford is an entirely different matter. I'm not married yet, but that doesn't mean I can spend money that I don't have, right?
Finally! I generally never use credit cards and buy gear at half price. If I can't get a bargain I don't buy.While I am all for equality of sexes, I do thing there are some differences... While men are much more prone to GAS on photo equipment, or on tools, women are very attracted by shoes and handbags...
So if my wife complains that I have bought a new drill, or a new lens, I can always remind her of her last shopping session where she got a new pair of shoes (or any other fashion acessory).
Works fine, as she tends to buy more often than me!
HeheMy wife is blessed with extreme good luck. As if being married to me wasn't enough, she regularly finds brand new clothes, shoes and handbags at the back of the wardrobe.
I'm going to clean out the shed next week. Pretty sure there is a pair of Godox AD200s in there somewhere.
Same here on the critical mass. I picked up a mint Sony 90mm f2.8 macro on FM for $690 this week, an excellent deal IMHO. I’ve been keeping an eye out for a good used one or possible the newer Sigma 105. The package arrived while she was getting her hair done. I mostly buy used and if I don’t like or don’t use something, I sell it on for roughly the same amount. The bills are all paid, no debt, the 401k is maxed out plus I save on top of that. I have to spend the remainder on something!Mine looses track after a while, so the grand idea is just to reach critical mass and add to that...
In reality, I started off in the M43 system with a somewhat decent sum after off-loading a couple of different Dslr systems and have traded somewhat within that bubble over the last few years with some additional money thrown in, when I passed the fifty year mark.
I also tend to get stuff either on sale or second-hand, so I am probably somewhat at break even currently, if I should need to sell off stuff.
As of now, I primarily indulge my curiosity in regards to older stuff, so the stakes are low and and the buying is normally in the two digit sums dollar-vise.